Thinking of giving up

[Moshpitviper]

Well keep us all informed.

[sammy1969]

I will do dave dont worry just glad there are so many good people out there

[GRB]

Originally Posted by sammy1969

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Sorry didnt mean to imply that it was a bad thing to become attached to our pets just that in certain cases i find i become very close to certain of my clan and alot moreso than i do the majority of them, even though i do love them all dearly, hence why i get so upset when things go wrong, I think it is one of my worse traits. I mean a case in point ihave two elderly rats both over four years of age that i have had for the same length of time and love them both but i know for a fact that when gracewing dies i will feel it alot more than when piglet dies even though i have never treated them any different its just the case that grace is such a character and is more interactive if you like with me. My brother has always said i am far too ott when it comes to loosing a pet and i suppose he is right to an extent but then if ever it became easy to live with the loss of a pet i think i would definately give up.

Oh no, I didnt get that at all - I was mearly saying its probably a good thing you do take it hard, if that makes sense. Its horrible when these things happen, but it think i'd rather feel bad at the loss, than feel nothing at all. I have more respect for people who feel it rough than people who plainly don't give a toss when their pet dies. IMO, a person who takes loss badly shows more concern, and it looks more that the pet was a member of the family rather than "just" a pet.

And just to say, hope you get over this bad patch soon - I only suggested toning down not to doubt your abilities, but to suggest a means of possible stress relief as such.

-GRB

[animalfreak]

were the 4 hatchlings you mentioned the ones from me as at the time you took them you only had 2 other hatchlings or did you take on others

[rachel132002]

I've thought of giving up once but that was because my heater in my shed went kaput one night and the air that is just warm decided to go overboard and make my shed 120degrees and i had 20 corns and 2 skinks dead which made me feel as bad as possible.

But you need to ask yourself:

1)what's your limit, space, money and emotion wise?

2)what do you want? free time? lots of spare cash? reptiles?

3)Can you honestly picture yourself from now on totally without reptiles?

We all have knocks, some worse than others and we all have different limits depending on what we can personally manage, i've had my fair share of illnesses, mites, non-feeders, deaths and it's never nice or fun but it's part and part of keeping animals really.

Quantity wise - well i guess it again depends on the individual i'm 19 with nearly 60snakes i'd say but all get fed, cleaned, watered etc and i've paid some ridiculous vets bills and all this is while being a full time uni student and working 30hrs a week so spare time is a bizarre concept but i guess the point is yes it's hard when it doesn't go to plan but would you feel better without having any at all? My guess is not, it's just learning to enjoy the good and deal with the bad - all we can do really.

Rach

[SiUK]

Originally Posted by gaz

get a grip,where there's livestock,there's dead stock. Its a fact of being in this sort of game.
regards gaz

harsh but very true, it goes with the territory im afraid, where any living thing is there is potential problems even with the very best care, my advice is dont do anything rash, you may well end up regretting it.

[sammy1969]

were the 4 hatchlings you mentioned the ones from me as at the time you took them you only had 2 other hatchlings or did you take on others from animalfreak



No had four others as well as yours that came from other people, how are the guineas doing lol?

[sammy1969]

GRB
Ahh i see we are on the same page lol yeah i am terrible when it comes to loosing my pets and yeah you are right i think it does show that you really care if oyu have a reaction to a death andi think we are both the same as i dotn see mine as pets as such they are my babies hence why i get so upset at things going wrong

[sammy1969]

Rachel, do you ever get time to sleep lol, i would love half of your energy, but seriously i can only imagine how gutted i would feel if the same thign had happened to me.
As i have said i am not going to rush into a discision but am having serious conversations with hubby about how things feel right now and he has pointed out that although we have a few problems right now we have also accomplished alot in the past year or so including getting married.
He has also pointed out just how much i worry about the pets we have and how horrible i would feel if i gave them away just because things are not going well right now i would be terrible to live with and would regret it the second they were gone, but i am still not sure,even though i now he is right,so still have things to think about.

[animalfreak]

the guinea pigs are great they love being handled and they get on really well with the other 1 we had they like the garden when the weather is permitting. they are not to keen on dried food but as they have a mixture of fresh each day thats not a problem

what hppened with the 4 non feeders you took on from me ,
we still have 1 that is now an assist feed so getting there slowly