Random cat chat thread

[Emmaj]

Originally Posted by Shell195

He sounds like an evil control freak to me. You arent to blame its HIM. Nobody will take Lew off you hun your his mum whos loved him and reared him all these years. They wont take notice of a tw@t like him

gawd would take me a month to tell the whole story so hey we will leave it in short lol

But i suffered many an injury from him worst being him putting my head through a telephone box window

Im just so good at picking idiots

My son is my son NOone will take him from me over my dead body

[Shell195]

Nobody will try and take your son he needs his mum. Cant you get an injuntion out on him then he cant contact you?

Ive gotta go to bed now as Im knackered as Ive worked hard today and Im not as young as I used to be Speak tomorrow and try not to worry to much hun I do believe its idle threats and even if he tries to do anything social services wont take his side when you tell of the abuse and cruelty you both suffered
Big Hugs (( XX))

[Emmaj]

Originally Posted by Shell195

Nobody will try and take your son he needs his mum. Cant you get an injuntion out on him then he cant contact you?

Ive gotta go to bed now as Im knackered as Ive worked hard today and Im not as young as I used to be Speak tomorrow and try not to worry to much hun I do believe its idle threats and even if he tries to do anything social services wont take his side when you tell of the abuse and cruelty you both suffered
Big Hugs (( XX))

Yeah im off bed too hun

well im hoping they are idle threats but with him they could be anything..........

nitey nite hun x x x x x

[feorag]

Morning all. Oh Dear I went to bed too early last night, didn't I?

Emma, I have to say that I think Shell is right, social services wouldn't take Lew away from you over something as slight as that! Cruelty or neglect of children is what social services are worried about, not angry phone calls to their fathers.

If your ex has a history of violence towards other women as well as yourself, then he can hardly accuse you. And if we all carried out verbal threats, there would be a load more murders and attacks happening, because temper can make us threaten to do things that we would never actually do in the cold, grey light of day.

You could ring up any family solicitor and ask if they give a free first interview. Most solicitors will offer a free 20 or 30 minute interview during which they will give you advice and tell you what the costs will be if you need further advice.

At least you could go and ask if you need to be worried about his threat, rather than worrying yourself needlessly because you probably have nothing to worry about. I hope you feel better today.

[Emmaj]

Originally Posted by feorag

Morning all. Oh Dear I went to bed too early last night, didn't I?

Emma, I have to say that I think Shell is right, social services wouldn't take Lew away from you over something as slight as that! Cruelty or neglect of children is what social services are worried about, not angry phone calls to their fathers.

If your ex has a history of violence towards other women as well as yourself, then he can hardly accuse you. And if we all carried out verbal threats, there would be a load more murders and attacks happening, because temper can make us threaten to do things that we would never actually do in the cold, grey light of day.

You could ring up any family solicitor and ask if they give a free first interview. Most solicitors will offer a free 20 or 30 minute interview during which they will give you advice and tell you what the costs will be if you need further advice.

At least you could go and ask if you need to be worried about his threat, rather than worrying yourself needlessly because you probably have nothing to worry about. I hope you feel better today.

Tbh im not worried about his threat mulling things over an like i have been told..........I did well to wait for 7 years to finally blow up

I have been patient with the man for that legnth of time never denying him or his family access to lew it was his choice he didnt want to bond with him and build a relationship with him

And tbh im glad he isnt in lews life as lew deserves so much better than him and dosnt need him either

[feorag]

Having read the small amount of stuff you've mentioned I too think that Lew would be better without someone like that in his life.

Good on ya girl!!

[elliottreed]

Emma that is awful i'm so sorry to hear about that. Domestic violence is something I know a lot about, my Dad rest his soul, was a heavy alcoholic for all of my life.

Unfortunately even in the worst circumstances he was arrested and released as long as he stopped drinking, so I know not a lot happens in that department but it most certainly should.

I hope you're ok and stay strong hun xxxx

[Emmaj]

Originally Posted by elliottreed

Emma that is awful i'm so sorry to hear about that. Domestic violence is something I know a lot about, my Dad rest his soul, was a heavy alcoholic for all of my life.

Unfortunately even in the worst circumstances he was arrested and released as long as he stopped drinking, so I know not a lot happens in that department but it most certainly should.

I hope you're ok and stay strong hun xxxx

Yeps it happened to me around the time when police wouldnt do anything or get involved

I found the stregnth to leave him through a relate counciler she gave me my get out card and i took it an never looked back

[Emmaj]

Originally Posted by feorag

Having read the small amount of stuff you've mentioned I too think that Lew would be better without someone like that in his life.

Good on ya girl!!

I just look at it this way.................its his loss and he has missed out on a fantastic lil boy growing up

So sod him

[fenwoman]

Originally Posted by elliottreed

Thanks Shell, sometimes I think, who cares, i'm big and beautiful, then someone makes a comment even a slight comment that was unintentional and I get so upset and depressed and feel like a huge ball.. i used to be really skinny and quite hot (if i do say so myself!)

now i'm just.... fat.

but! my clothes will be here this week so i'll definitely do some modelling in front of the camera and you can let me know whether it hides the podge or not ! haha xxxx

It's odd. All my life I've been slim. I haven't made an effort to be slim, I just eat the correct amount of calories and burn up the required amount obviously. Yet I get labelled things like 'stick insect' and 'skinny'. Personally I find this insulting. A woman in B&Q a few years ago, turned to me and said "oooh, look how skinny you are. How do you do it?" and was mortally offended when I replied "ooooh look how fat you are, how do you do it?"
After decades of being called names by fat women, I now find I get extremely irritated by them if they contantly moan and complain about their size, yet do beggar all about it. It really is simple. If you are fat, and don't like being fat, change the way you eat and get off your backside occasionally and do some proper exersize to burn off the fat. It really is that simple.Being busy all day, is not the same as being physically active and there is nothing mysterious about why you are fat.It isn't voodoo, or a curse, or genes. Unless there is a medical condition like polycystic ovaries, or steroids or underactive thyroid gland etc, then you are fat because you eat too many calories and don't burn them off.
If you are fat, and like being fat, great stuff and more power too you. 'Fat is where it's at'. If you are fat and don't like being fat, then do something about it and stop bitching and moaning about it .
No I'm not feeling crabby and no I'm not being mean. I'm just fed up to the back teeth of every single magazine I buy, being full of diet stuff, stories about how such a person crammed her face with crap and sat on her lardy arse for 10 years, was amazed that she looked like a beached whale when she went on holiday, then demanded the cash strapped NHS wasted it's resources, cutting part of her stomach away to prevent her being a glutton and now she can fit in a bikini. Or advert's for this and that miracle pill, cream or some other thing which melts away fat so that people can continue to stuff their faces all day and sit on their bums, but not put on weight.
Some people have real issues they cope with daily, real health problems and other stuff but they just get on with it, do the best they can and try to make their life better in any way that they can without constantly bleating on how hard done by they are and how terrible it all is, when the solution is in their own hands.