get a pair of thin leather gloves (B&Q do gardening gloves). You should then be able to go straight in and pick her up without hesitating cos she can't hurt you. This confidence will rub off on her and she will become less stressed as well. Within a very short time you won't need the gloves.
My first snake was a cali king who was a bit bitey, so i used to wear gloves to get him out...it worked wonders cos it gave me the confidence to handle him and him time to get used to being out and about